Carson Daly, who shares 4 kids with wife Siri Pinter, tells PEOPLE that he has made sure his children know the importance of speaking up when something doesn’t feel right both physically and emotionally.

"I've always talked to them like they were 30 years old," Carson told People, adding that he always tries to be forthcoming with them about his own struggles. Part of it includes

Carson Daly talks to his children about being in couples therapy. The 'Today' co-host - who has Jackson, 15, Etta, 11, London, nine, and Goldie, four, with wife Siri Pinter - believes in speaking openly with his kids and is happy to let them know that marriage is "hard" and takes work.